Photograph by Abe Goodale
Photograph by Abe Goodale
Photograph by Abe Goodale
Photograph by Abe Goodale
Photograph by Abe Goodale
Photograph by Abe Goodale
Photograph by Abe Goodale
Photograph by Abe Goodale

Simply Healing

Touching in to a person's story, deeply listening and resonating with someone else's pain, even if only for a moment, is healing. Healing is about restoring health; it is about promoting the closure of a wound. Healing is the process of soothing and unifying.

Health is the state of being whole in body, mind and/or spirit; it is the state of being free from disease or pain. To be whole is to be complete, not to be divided; to be whole is to leave nothing out, but to be all-inclusive, intact, full. To be whole is to be unified, to be sound. To be healthy, then, is to be unified.

On the physical level a wound is an injury, for instance, where the skin is divided or has lost its continuity. A wound is tissue that has been broken open. A wound is when a person has been broken open psychologically, mentally, or emotionally. A wound is a breach, a violation, an infringement.

Union is the act of joining together or it is an alliance. To mend a wound in the skin the tissue comes together. To restore health to a wounded soul or mind requires bringing together, restoring continuity to and soothing the edges that have been broken apart. There is an embracing, a meeting, a regeneration or restoration.

When I touch in to a person's wound, when I feel the depth of another's pain, there is unification. It is like a stitch between torn edges of skin, like a filling in a decayed tooth, or like a warm embrace that soothes and comforts. Touching in or healing, is not about figuring out how to fix someone, it is not about thinking about what caused the distress, or how to get retribution, or lingering in the distress. Touching in is about meeting someone's pain, knowing that place in myself sufficiently enough to feel compassion well up for our human sameness. Healing is about being together, in regenerative renewal of our collectivity. It is about remembering that we are together, not separated, no longer broken apart. The pain is not left out, I am not left out, we are not fragmented in ourselves when I touch in then let go.


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